Last week, I had the immense pleasure of being a guest on the Couplespeak™ Relationship Forum, with host, Susan Lager.
The topic for discussion was Building a Problem Solving Mindset with 7 Critical Tools. The problem solving mindset is critical for every area of life. It doesn't matter what you are trying to achieve, you will encounter problems and setbacks.
Building a problem solving mindset will enable you to step up to the problems and challenges you face; take them on and continue to progress on your life's journey.
You can listen to the interview by clicking on the play button below:
I honestly think that Susan and I could have talked on this topic for days but we had a 45-minute time slot. Despite this, we managed to cover some very important topics.
The list below highlights some of they key points we discussed. Feel free to check them out for yourself.
Key Discussion Points
1. Responsibility
The importance of taking responsibiility for the situation in which you find yourself and, just as importantly, for finding the solution to the problems you face.
2. Emotional intelligence
The importance of understanding and managing your own emotions. And, understanding and empathising with the emotions of others.
3. Goal Identification
The importance of taking a step back and determining the outcome you would like to achieve; before you jump into implementing solutions.
4. Gathering the detail
One of the best ways to take unnecessary emotion out of the situation is to use descriptive and objective detail to understand the exact nature of the problem.
5. Active listening
Active listeneing is a strategy which is often promoted but rarely understood. You will hear a coach and a relationship counsellor offer their takes on how to do it properly.
6. Probe and reflect
Using the right strategy, at the right time, to gather the necessary details.
7. Desire to find the most appropriate solution
For any given problem, there are endless potential solutions. You could just implement the first potential solution that enters your mind but you probalby wouldn't fully resolve the issue.
About Susan Lager
Susan Lager is a psychotherapist, author, and relationship coach at her private practice, The Couples Center PLLC, in Portsmouth, NH.
She is the Founder and Principal of Couplespeak™, the unique and innovative company providing exciting programs and vital tools for transformational relationship success.
She has authored many published articles, as well as two new workbooks in The Couplespeak™ Series: "I'M TALKING! ARE YOU LISTENING?" FIX COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS WITH YOUR PARTNER IN NO TIME FLAT! is a short, humorous guide for the "do's" and "don't's" of better communication in close relationships.
Her latest book "BECOME RELATIONSHIP SMART WITHOUT A LIFETIME OF THERAPY" is a useful resource for anyone wanting more joyful, meaningful relationships.
To access more of Susan's fantastic interviews, check out her show here.